The events leading up to the wedding can be so much fun; this weekend I had my first bridal shower , next weekend will be the Atlanta bridal shower, Tommy and I will sign the lease to our new apartment, and then before we know it we’ll be back in Atlanta for our wedding!
As things begin to speed up, I have created a reminder list for myself on how to stay focused over the next six weeks before our wedding. Like any big experience, you know that there is often a calming before the storm and you must guard yourself and your heart so as to not be distracted. After all, “the enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy.”
Here are my top 6 tips for being 6 weeks out:
Remain Accountable: Stay covered and grounded; these are the weeks when you’re waiting season seems so close to its end, and you have to continue to remind and encourage yourself that “your fruit will bear in due season” (Psalms 1:3) Sometimes I get so excited and anxious about our marriage, that I forget to simply enjoy the season that we are currently in. We have to tighten our belts and use wisdom in how we spend our time together.
Remain in a disciple relationship: My mom and I have been reading Stormie Omartian’s book, “The Power of a Praying Wife.” This has been a great opportunity for my mom and I to both grow and also for her to pour into me as I transition into a new phase of womanhood (as corny as that may sound). It’s been a great read and helps me to prepare. I know that there are only so many books and studies that you can take part in, and that the real experience comes from just experiencing marriage, but use the resources around you to at least build up some reserves.
Have fun!!!! Enjoy the showers and the gifts, and the time “being single.” Not that, marriage puts you in some type of crazy bondage, but just enjoy the season of being single!
Stay prayed up! Continue to fill yourself with the Word of God. God’s word and the Holy Spirit is really what is carrying me at this point. It’s been easy for me to get distracted by the stresses of work and the attractive lingerie. Lol I have to stay in the word of God. Now I’m not really a morning person, and there are different views on when is a good time to seek God, but really yes you can seek Him anytime and you should seek Him all throughout the day, but giving Him your attention first thing in the morning, I believe will help to keep you covered and focused before you even step out into the world of chaos. I didn’t really get this concept until I tried it, and it made all the difference in how I started my day.
Love your fiancé, but don’t get too lovey –dovey with him. Ladies, yes he is a Christian, but he is also a man, and you can be sure that his hormones are raging and ready to really “minister” to you! So just be conscious of the subtle things you may do, say, or wear, that can possibly trigger something in your man. And of course it’s different for everyone, you just have to study and learn your partner.
Tie up any loose financial ends: make sure you are both clear on how you will be stewards of your money both for your lives as a married couple and also for the remaining wedding and housing expenses. Communication is really the key in this area. Don’t purchase or make any financial decisions without consulting your fiancé especially if it affects you both. This is not just, “oh why do I have to get permission?” it’s simply out of respect and a form of protection for you. Shoot, if you haven’t gotten the idea that it’s not just about you anymore and that you need to communicate your choices, then the next 6 weeks is a great time to get that revelation.
Love ya’ll; talk to you during week 4.
~ Candace
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